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BULLIES

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dvbuk55
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Re: BULLIES

Post by dvbuk55 »

brothermagrew wrote:
dvbuk55 wrote:
disgruntledpostie1 wrote:
You're an abusive, backstabbing, blame-shifting, condescending, conniving, controlling, deceiving, double-crossing, egotistical, evasive, fault-finding, hateful, hypocritical, irrational, irritating, judgemental, lying, manipulative, nitpicking, paranoid, pretentious, pushy, sadistic, sarcastic, self-important, self-righteous, sneaky, two-faced, underhanded, unreasonable son-of-a-bitch!

All true of course - but apart from them - do I have any serious faults? :wave
:hmmmm :hmmmm :hmmmm Portnoy's :hmmmm :hmmmm :hmmmm
Ah yes - put it between paranoid and pretentious - I missed that I was too busy thingying :oops:
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Re: BULLIES

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Most people are blind to the various behaviour traits of a workplace bully. Not surprising, since a bully is an expert at distinguishing his/her bullying behaviours with more socially acceptable, and even admired qualities. But with a trained eye, you can identify behaviour traits that will reveal a bully. Often it will be a pattern of behaviour that tips you off rather than an isolated action. If you recognise a bully early, you will be better prepared to fight back before he/she inflicts too much damage on you and others.

A Bully's 12 Visible Behaviour Traits

1. Tests you
2. Controls you
3. Highly ambitious
4. Overly confident
5. Strong-willed
6. Argumentative
7. Judgemental
8. Highly critical
9. Character assassin
10. Vengeful
11. Aggressive speech patterns
12. Aggressive body language
"Today’s workplace has become heartless and soulless. Employees are seen as units of labour, automatons, functionaries, objects for achieving designated tasks, and as costs to be minimised."
stokes11eg
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Re: BULLIES

Post by stokes11eg »

ghostgirl wrote:
stokes11eg wrote::sad: Got it in one, True Blue.It is always the real slackers and chancers who Management won't stand up to, whilst taking their frustrations out on the good workers.Say no more.
So true stokes11eg.....so very true...this is very thing that is happening to me at the moment or should I say this is what they are trying to do to me at the moment - unsucessfully of course and if it continues tomorrow then I'm off to see the good old union rep!!!
:wave Hi, Ghostgirl--Please stand up to them,but as post says, try not to get aggressive--spend a day or two thinking through your 'defence'--and state your case. Invariably, when you show you have right on your side,they will back down for the cowards they are.Strangly--if you do stand up to them eventually you may even get a grudging kind of respect from the
until the next time of course.
good luck.
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Re: BULLIES

Post by andy2007 »

brothermagrew wrote:A little venting at home and in private can do you good..........


Even though it is highly tempting to lose your temper and yell insults at a workplace bully, don't do it. You would be falling into a trap from which you may never recover. Nevertheless, you may need to vent some anger and frustration. Couple of exercises that can be practiced in the confines of your own home when you are alone and not within earshot of anyone else.



Short version to vent at a bully:
You're a backstabbing, condescending, conniving, manipulative son-of-a-bitch!

Long version to vent at a bully:
You're an abusive, backstabbing, blame-shifting, condescending, conniving, controlling, deceiving, double-crossing, egotistical, evasive, fault-finding, hateful, hypocritical, irrational, irritating, judgemental, lying, manipulative, nitpicking, paranoid, pretentious, pushy, sadistic, sarcastic, self-important, self-righteous, sneaky, two-faced, underhanded, unreasonable son-of-a-bitch!
It would also be useful, to get some professional Anger Management too. I know it sounds strange, for the victim to have to do this. But bullies often count on their victim loosing their temper. Because it gives them a chance to claim that they're the victim, not you. If you have help to control your anger, 'till it's all sorted out. Then their defence never materialises. :hmmmm
Don't knock Insanity
it's just another outlook on Reality!
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Re: BULLIES

Post by stokes11eg »

:crazy: Handy tip no. one to defuse Angry Manager who is trying to bring you down on shop floor----pretend you didn't hear the first time, smile and ask them to repeat! It works!!i do have a SLIGHT hearing problem, which I bring into play when needs be, normally, if you ask therm politely to repeat, theit gas has gone, and you get a mumnled 'speak to you later'
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Re: BULLIES

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Working with you has provided me with wonderful opportunities for personal growth, really cracks them up! :wave
"Today’s workplace has become heartless and soulless. Employees are seen as units of labour, automatons, functionaries, objects for achieving designated tasks, and as costs to be minimised."
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Re: BULLIES

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brothermagrew wrote:Working with you has provided me with wonderful opportunities for personal growth, really cracks them up! :wave
:arrrghhh If you are talking to me. please excuse my spelling. I will give you handy tip no. 2 tomorrow,treid and tested by
me, and again it works. :angel
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Re: BULLIES

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brothermagrew wrote:Working with you has provided me with wonderful opportunities for personal growth, really cracks them up! :wave
Are you being very rude? and, is Portnoy's catching? :shock:
Bye
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Re: BULLIES

Post by doveston »

brothermagrew wrote:Most people are blind to the various behaviour traits of a workplace bully. Not surprising, since a bully is an expert at distinguishing his/her bullying behaviours with more socially acceptable, and even admired qualities. But with a trained eye, you can identify behaviour traits that will reveal a bully. Often it will be a pattern of behaviour that tips you off rather than an isolated action. If you recognise a bully early, you will be better prepared to fight back before he/she inflicts too much damage on you and others.

A Bully's 12 Visible Behaviour Traits

1. Tests you
2. Controls you
3. Highly ambitious
4. Overly confident
5. Strong-willed
6. Argumentative
7. Judgemental
8. Highly critical
9. Character assassin
10. Vengeful
11. Aggressive speech patterns
12. Aggressive body language
our bully's loves to threaten us with 'conduct code' for ANYTHING. every wtl,for every section the words conduct code are said.
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Re: BULLIES

Post by IWW Fellow Worker »

doveston wrote:our bully's loves to threaten us with 'conduct code' for ANYTHING. every wtl,for every section the words conduct code are said.
If they are incapable of ruling by reason (and they are), they must rule by tyranny.
The Industrial Workers of the World. The union whose members never scab!

"The working class and the employing class have nothing in common."
dvbuk55
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Re: BULLIES

Post by dvbuk55 »

BELIAL wrote:
brothermagrew wrote:Working with you has provided me with wonderful opportunities for personal growth, really cracks them up! :wave
Are you being very rude? and, is Portnoy's catching? :shock:
Yes it's catching - have you got hairy hands yet, and are those really spectacles or Guinness bottle ends - you can get smaller hearing aids than that too - almost invisible :wink:
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Re: BULLIES

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BELIAL wrote:
brothermagrew wrote:Working with you has provided me with wonderful opportunities for personal growth, really cracks them up! :wave
Are you being very rude? and, is Portnoy's catching? :shock:
Not at all, was going to add ask dvbuk, but he's already responded, and the quote was meant to be taken in the context of an employee to manager.
"Today’s workplace has become heartless and soulless. Employees are seen as units of labour, automatons, functionaries, objects for achieving designated tasks, and as costs to be minimised."
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Re: BULLIES

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I know ,just thought the "personal growth " bit might excite DvB :chuckle
Bye
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Re: BULLIES

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BELIAL wrote:I know ,just thought the "personal growth " bit might excite DvB :chuckle
I'm afraid that he doesn't get that anymore :nervous
I'm preparing myself for the zombie invasion, rule number 1 - Cardio
dvbuk55
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Re: BULLIES

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disgruntledpostie1 wrote:
BELIAL wrote:I know ,just thought the "personal growth " bit might excite DvB :chuckle
I'm afraid that he doesn't get that anymore :nervous
I told the wife not to tell anybody - is nothing sacred these days - I thought what went on in the marriage bed was sacrosanct, almost like confession, three apologies and a bunch of flowers and all the shortcomings would be forgiven :roll: