I work at one of the better DOs, but we still have a minority at ours who behave in exactly this sort of way. Our managers are actually all decent folk, but frustratingly, they are seemingly powerless to eradicate the perpetrators once and for all, with culprits being transferred, given warnings, it coming to nothing, etc, etc…LouBarlow wrote: ↑16 Mar 2024, 07:56To be fair, they have done that with me too. It is beyond creepy that random people on the internet try and track you down for daring to have a different opinion on an internet forum. I have even had members on here set up alternate accounts and PM me for personal details. There are some deranged folks out there. That said, I have never revealed my gender either, I don’t think, so maybe people have been presuming I am female all along. It suddenly makes sense.Smoothbackground wrote: ↑15 Mar 2024, 19:13You’re being wilfully obtuse. And maybe you are – as has already been suggested by an objective and impartial observer – showing your misogynistic inner thoughts. Because this little lady dares to express views that differ from your own caveman-type views, you feel a burning need to identify and locate me!
In all honesty, I notice similar in my workplace, with female members of staff being more prone to bullying from management, which has been addressed in our office, but must still go on nationwide. I guess this site just reflects that.
Just one example. Not long after I went permanent, we had a newish gay woman paired for the day with an old-timer who quizzed her all day about her sex life and told her he would “convert her”, asking her if she had ever had a man, did she fancy him, etc. he even made her swap numbers when in the van under the guise of needing it for when they went off their separate ways to do their loops.
She came back in tears, really upset, and didn’t feel confident to raise with managers as this old-timer had told her he had the managers under the thumb — def not true BtW. Instead, on our naive advice, she went to the doorstepping union rep for support and advice, and he told her this was the normal culture and that if she didn’t have thick enough skin then it wasn’t the job for her. She quit later that week. He is still there, still making crude remarks openly…