15 DIFFERENCES BETWEEN HARASSMENT & WORKPLACE BULLYING

[brothermagrew]

The 15 essential differerences are:

HARASSMENT
Has a strong physical component, e.g. contact and touch in all it's forms, intrusion into personal space and possessions. Damage to possessions including a person's work etc:

WORKPLACE BULLYING
Almost exclusively psychological (e.g. criticism), may become physical later, especially with male bullies, but almost never with female bullies.

HARASSMENT
Tends to focus on the individual because of what they are (e.g. female, coloured, disabled) etc:

WORPLACE BULLYING
Anyone will do, especially if they are competent, popular and vulnerable.

HARASSMENT
Harassment is usually linked to sex, race, prejudice, discrimination etc:

WORKPLACE BULLYING
Although bullies are deeply prejudiced, sex, race and gender play little part, it's usually discrimination on the basis of competence.

HARASSMENT
Harassment may consist of a single incident or a few incidents or many incidents.

WORKPLACE BULLYING
Bullying is rarely a single incident and tends to be an accumulation of many small incidents, each of which, when taken in isolation and out of context, seems trivial.

HARASSMENT
The person who is being harassed knows almost straight away that they are being harassed.

WORKPLACE BULLYING
The person being bullied may not realise that they are being bullied for weeks or months until there's a moment of enlightenment.

HARASSMENT
Everyone can recognise harassment, especially if there's an assault, indecent assault or sexual assault.

WORKPLACE BULLYING
Few people recognise bullying.

HARASSMENT
Harassment often reveals itself through use of recognised offensive vocabulary, e.g. ("bitch", "coon") etc:

WORKPLACE BULLYING
Workplace bullying tends to fixate on trivial criticisms and false allegations of underperformance; offensive words rarely appear, although swear words may be used when there are no witnesses.

HARASSMENT
There's often an element of possession, e.g. as in stalking.

WORKPLACE BULLYING
Phase 1 of bullying is control and subjugation; when this fails, phase 2 is elimination of the target.

HARASSMENT
The harassment always has a srong clear focus, (e.g. sex, race and disability).

WORKPLACE BULLYING
The focus is on competence (envy) and popularity (jealousy).

HARASSMENT
Often the harassment is for peer approval, bravado, macho image etc:

Tends to be secret behind closed doors with no witnesses.

HARASSMENT
Harassment takes place both in and out of work.

WORKPLACE BULLYING
The bullying takes place mostly at work.

HARASSMENT
The harasser often perceives their target as easy, albeit sometimes a challenge.

WORKPLACE BULLYING
The target is seen as a threat who must first be controlled and subjugated, and if that doesn't work eliminated.

HARASSMENT
Harassment is often domination for superiority.

WORKPLACE ULLYING
Bullying is for control of threat (of exposure of the bully's own inadequacy).

HARASSMENT
The harasser often lacks self-discipline.

WORKPLACE BULLYING
The bully is driven by envy (of abilities) and jealousy (of relationships).

HARASSMENT
The harasser often has specific inadequacies.

WORKPLACE BULLYING
The bully is inadequate in all areas of interpersonal and behavioural skills.

[HootyMacBoob]

This site is one of the best sites on bullying and harassment IMHO, bookmark it for if you work for RM theres a could chance you will need it at some point.
http://www.bullyonline.org/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

[Pat Ostman]

Looks like a good candidate for a 'sticky' thread.

Another link
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[brothermagrew]

This site is one of the best sites on bullying and harassment IMHO, bookmark it for if you work for RM theres a could chance you will need it at some point.
http://www.bullyonline.org/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

An excellent and resourceful informative website HootyMacBoob long advocated by myself. The book by Tim Fields is an excellent read as well.

[DGP1]

All the Workplace Bullying statements apply to me still because any allegation of Bullying is investigated by managers I know what way any enquiry would end up, manager exonerated and me on the conduct code

[HootyMacBoob]

This site is one of the best sites on bullying and harassment IMHO, bookmark it for if you work for RM theres a could chance you will need it at some point.
http://www.bullyonline.org/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

An excellent and resourceful informative website HootyMacBoob long advocated by myself. The book by Tim Fields is an excellent read as well.

Yes was sad to here of his death was a great champion for people of all ages and cultures against bully's in all walks of life.

[Pat Ostman]

Agreed, got the book myself

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Bully-Sight-Cha ... 774&sr=8-1" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Bully in sight
How to predict, resist, challenge and combat workplace bullying
Overcoming the silence and denial by which abuse thrives
by
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Foreword by Diana Lamplugh OBE

ISBN 0952912104

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Bully in sight...

For targets of bullying...

Validates your experience of bullying when all around you are trying to deny it
Enables you to regain your sanity, stability and objectivity
Re-empowers you with insight and information
Offers practical advice throughout, is rich in content and free of psychobabble
Teaches you that you are not alone in your experience of being bullied
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Explains to partner and family the hell you are experiencing
Provides valuable information on the legal process with case law for constructive dismissal
Helps you restart your existing career or start on the path to a new career
Gives you the insight and knowledge to be able to defend yourself against bullies in the future
For everyone...

Tells you how to beat the bullies
Reveals a major unrecognised cause of stress
Demolishes the myth that "you've got to bully people to get the job done"
Differentiates bullying from tough management
Tells you how to identify, expose and deal with the serial bully
Identifies the behaviours behind harassment, discrimination, prejudice, abuse, conflict and violence
Explains how abusers control their targets
Is based on solid, practical experience
Is written in plain English and is easy to read
"After a long meeting at which I portrayed my boss's behaviour for what it was - that of a bully - and described how I now felt, he then suggested that I was perhaps `mentally ill'. Unfortunately I didn't have the wit or insight at the time to make it unambiguously and unequivocally clear that the state of my mental health was a direct consequence of his behavior. In missing this opportunity, I was in danger of falling into the mental health trap. I was fortunate that his amateur diagnosis was treated with the contempt it deserved by the health professionals within the company. Many people are not so fortunate"

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Employees quoted in Bully in sight

In this ground-breaking book, you will learn

what workplace bullying is, where, why and how it goes on
over 80 ideas for tackling bullying
simple but effective phrases to defend yourself against the bullies
how to regain control, dignity and self-respect
how to use existing law to obtain justice, including relevant case law to quote
how bullies get away with it again and again - and what you can do about it
how to successfully defend yourself against unjustified disciplinary action
the predictable bullying process, common bully tactics, and how to counter them
the foreseeable horrific psychiatric injuries caused by bullying
how to spot the mental health trap - and turn it to your advantage
how to tell the difference between mental illness and mental injury - and how knowing this can dramatically improve your chances of a successful outcome with compensation
advice on how to recognise the symptoms of bullying, even when the target cannot explain what is happening to them - and why
the principal reasons why and how bullies select their targets
the nature of the hold that bullies exert over their targets
guidance on how to tell who is lying when it's one word against another
why bullies bully whilst others become targets
the reasons why people "allow" bullying to go on
the difference between management and bullying
the circumstances that stimulate and perpetuate bullying
why bullying has got a lot worse in the last ten years - and will continue to get worse
how to arm yourself with knowledge to avoid being bullied in future
an answer to the perplexing question of why bullies see their target as a threat when no threat exists
if you're a bystander or observer, learn to see through the superficial air of normality to see the hidden abuse
how bullying behaviors are present behind prejudice, discrimination, harassment, abuse, persecution, conflict and violence
the different types of bullying, including corporate bullying and serial bullying
the nine moral issues raised by bullying and on which society must derive a consensus
for employers: find out how much the serial bully is costing you, and what to do about it
to appreciate the true cost of bullying to taxpayers, families, employers, society & State
Bully in sight is in two parts; part one describes and defines bullying, part two tells you what you can do about it.

Part 1: what is bullying?

Chapter 1: overview, common excuses and euphemisms, why bullying happens, what can be done
Chapter 2: bullying in education, the consequences of the imposition of league tables, the disastrous effects of OFSTED
Chapter 3: what bullying is, how bullying manifests itself, the predictable process of bullying, what to do about it, serial bullying, bullying phases, bully behaviours, how bullies get away with it, denial
Chapter 4: characteristics of the bullying manager, bully behaviours
Chapter 5: the bully's hold explained, physical bullying, maintaining the hold, conscience, compulsive lying, psychopathic personality, bully sayings, bully profile, facing up to the bully
Chapter 6: bullying strategies and tactics revealed
Chapter 7: how the target thinks, feels and reacts, how bullies select their targets, resistance to subjugation, what to watch out for, how and why people put up with bullying, profile of the bullied person
Chapter 8: effects of bullying on health, hypervigilance, the downward spiral, thoughts of suicide, the mental health trap, mental illness, stress breakdown, shock, trauma, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Prolonged Duress Stress Disorder (PDSD), stress and the body, ill-health resulting from bullying, effects on relationships, recovery, recognition and validation, moving on
Chapter 9: cost to the employer, poor productivity and performance, cost to the State, public sector, cost to the individual and family
Chapter 10: identifying the causes of bullying, what stimulates bullying, corporate bullying, inflexibility and imposition, benefits of regular reorganisation, perceived poor management, cutting costs by cutting staff, abuse of work force, image, culture, clues to look for, why people bully, patterns set in childhood

Part 2: how to challenge and combat workplace bullying

Chapter 11: how to identify and expose the bully, the 15-step unmasking process
Chapter 12: standing up for yourself, options, making a choice, behaving assertively, simple and effective assertive defences against the bully, handling criticism, dealing with guilt
Chapter 13: what to do if you're being bullied, practical advice from co-operation through conciliation to negotiation, confrontation and legal action
Chapter 14: using the law, laws relevant to bullying, the UK court system, industrial tribunals, what you need to know about constructive dismissal, time limits, previous tribunal decisions, case law relevant to bullying, liability, predecessors, preparing your case
Chapter 15: the nine moral issues raised by bullying
Chapter 16: taking action, the way forward, why employers need to take action now, backlash, helping the target, hel

[benyoung]

Wish I had this info sooner. Too late for me though, I've already been sacked. A victim of workplace bullying which lead to stress, inconjunction with a breavement which quickly reslutled in a stage 3 dismissal!

[norbert]

All the Workplace Bullying statements apply to me still because any allegation of Bullying is investigated by managers I know what way any enquiry would end up, manager exonerated and me on the conduct code

that's why everything with RM has to be logged , who , what , when , where etc as RM will have this down to a fine subtle ( sometimes ! ) art and it's your word against theirs and they'll stop at nothing to protect their managers , orders from on very high .

[pinstripe]

That list reads like a management check-list, to be completed between coffee breaks.